Tuesday, April 15, 2014

The 30-Something Body - Changes You Should Know About (Fashion Blog Post)

No one likes skinny b*tches who complain about their weight.

So if your BMI is at the mid to lower spectrum of the chart, you should probably get off of the subject of weight all-together.

I learned the hard way: used to always ask my husband if I was fat. (You are a smart girl. You know the drill. You're only 20% self-conscious, and 80% fishing for compliments. It's all fun and game.) One day though, our daughter, at the time two, asked me, "mommy am I fat?"


Since then, all talks about fat, skinny, weight loss, etc ceased. Healthy is the focus now.

Mommy runs because cardiovascular exercise benefits the heart. Mommy eats chicken because lean protein makes muscles big and strong.

This sets a much better example for the little ones, don't you think?

So let me declare the purpose of this fashion blog post before you continue.

It's not about fat, skinny or weight loss either; it's about the changes you'll (likely) undergo when you enter your mid-30's like me. They are personal experiences and may not apply to everyone, but because most of The Girlie Blog's visitors are younger, I thought I'd provide a preview.

Also, since this is a fashion blog and all, knowing of such bodily changes prepares you for a change in style. Trust me! It's certainly different -- if not challenging -- dressing a 30-something body, especially if you just spent a few years being pregnant and breastfeeding.

The 30-something body - changes you should know about

1. You're wider at the bottom.

Perhaps genetics? Perhaps pregnancies? Not sure of the cause, but hips are wider, and thighs are thicker.

For pants, you might want to stray from wide-legged style, and choose slim fits with dark colors and materials that stretch. Leggings or jeggings are always the safest bet.

Personally, I'd stay away from big, bold prints on the bottom. They seem very popular in the past two seasons, but make thighs look heavier. Again, personal opinion only.

Additionally, a bit of contrast works, like today's oversized top over skinny jeans (see post pictures).

2. Everything sags.

Thank you, gravity! Let's go cry now.

The 30-something body droops downward. (So sad, too bad, okay?) To keep everything from falling, buy really, really good shape wear and undergarments. I recommend Victoria's Secret Body By Victoria push up, or the Bombshell (check them out here). They are expensive, but they give the "girls" (the appearance of) an instant lift.

3. You see spider veins.

You can't prevent spider veins. They come as they please. Now before you bolt for the nearest plastic surgeon, remember that maxi skirts and capri pants exist for a reason.

4. You see cellulite too.

And just like spider veins, these little fat pockets on your glute and thighs can't be prevented. Even if you're extremely fit, you'll get them. So remember one more time that maxis and capris exist for a reason.

5. You've slower metabolism and less stamina.

And will probably gain weight with a stale routine.

No, this blog post still isn't about weight, but don't you want to fit in your clothes?

Worst of all, size-up (hey, I did) and stay away from tight things that enable a muffin top.

Again, all these are personal experiences, and don't apply to everyone.

In fact, I'm sure you have better luck, and your 30-something body will be much lovelier than mine.

Thanks for reading. 

Hope you're enjoying the spring.


  1. YES! Applause! Standing ovation!!!!

    As a petite, almost-28-year-old mother of three I am absolutely over the moon that you've written this! Getting older and having kids means that not everything that used to look good on you before will still look good on you now even though your weight and/or size is the same!

    ♥ Duckie.

  2. Thank you for sharing what you've learned and advice for our aging bodies! Despite you having a child and being your age, you look amazing, years younger! I really wish I had your lean figure!

  3. You look beautiful in all of these pictures! I really like your boots with your jeans :)

    And good for you for watching your words about weight around your daughter. Kids pick up body image issues from their parents sometimes...it's really sad. I'm glad you pointed that out!

    xo Azu


  4. Everything you wrote is so true! I experienced all those things in my 30's. You have to re-evaluate everything you do. Love your outfit.

  5. Everything you wrote is true! I have a friend who weighs 95 lbs and constantly asked me if she was fat. I don't get it. Yea, as I grow older, I'm more conscious of taking care of my body. Great post!

    xo Jo


  6. You look gorgeous for any age. It doesn't look like any of the things on the list happened to you! Love the positive spin you put on everything. This way we won't all freak out as we get older.
    Blog: CuteLA.com

  7. I don't see any fat or sagging. You look hot and loving the bag!


  8. I think my 30s will be great like yours. But if you are after 30 and you dont have your ish together about how you look and accept life ups and downs ( puns intended) then hush.I keep my comments to myself about me I have girls around me who are growing up in this very self absorbing world, and I dont want them sucked in. Anyway you are stunning and you are a great influence on everyone keep doing what you do!!!!!!!

  9. Well, I must say that you definitely look young! You handled the changes well, and thank you for the tips!!!
    It's definitely about acceptance, and how you take care of yourself. =D


  10. Well, I must say that you definitely look young! You handled the changes well, and thank you for the tips!!!
    It's definitely about acceptance, and how you take care of yourself. =D


  11. Great post!!!

    :* :* Roxie T


  12. Bravo and kudos to you for writing so openly and honestly! As a gal approaching my 40's I'm plagued by the same issues you detailed. Which is why it's great to see a beautiful woman handling the ageing process with dignity as well as humor. I'm a makeup artist in Hollywood and a former fashion designer, so I understand the real perils of working in an ageist market. But thanks to bloggers like you, I feel a little better about it today!


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